Comments on: That Four Letter F-Word

By: Gopinath Mavinkurve

Gopinath Mavinkurve — Thu, 17 Sep 2009 08:29:51 +0000

Thanks you all for sharing your experiences and views and also for some great acronym ideas!

By: Glenn Wilson

Glenn Wilson — Tue, 28 Jul 2009 15:28:09 +0000

I have a fear of teaching my child to be assertive and fearless because I have seen what it can do. My fear is that in teaching my child to defend and protect themselves that they become the bullies they fight against.

I therefore teach my children a standard that they hold to and draw the line on. If they hold to that standard then the bullies will know that there are repercussions for crossing that line. That their actions will be escalated to a higher authority or that they will physically defend themselves when necessary.

Most of the time people will not cross a clear line of standard and they will go else where if they know you are willing to fight if that line is crossed.

The times that I have bullied and was bullied are when there was no clear line of standard on what was acceptable and unacceptable behavior. We teach our children good touching and bad touching to protect them from pedophiles. We should do the same in this case as well. We must set a standard for what is acceptable and unacceptable for our children and support them in holding to it. They may change the standard when they become adults but we set them now and teach them how to set their own.

I have a saying “The line that you hold is the line that you keep” which means the standard that you will defend is the standards that you will keep. All others (standards) someone will take or you will give them away.

This applies to adults as well we must have a standard too. If we defend our personal standards in life we lessen the chance of forcing our standards on others.

I believe in the standards of Jesus Christ, but chose ye this day your own standards as for me and my house we will follow the Lord.

By: Anitha.S

Anitha.S — Mon, 20 Jul 2009 15:43:18 +0000

Fear can expand as – Fantasized Experience Appearing Real. Phew.

By: Sanjeev Kumar Chugh

Sanjeev Kumar Chugh — Mon, 20 Jul 2009 09:41:09 +0000

Some more acronyms: False Evidence Appearing Real or False Entities Appearing Real. And the remedy lies in Face Each And Remove.

Well, lots has been written on this topic. And people enjoy being on the side where they scare people. Sometimes without realising it.

It is said that Life is meaningless and empty. And elders say that it is reflection, resound and resound of our own creations. So how should we tackle fear. Try Being Good, See Good and Do Good.

Being assertive is all about making the other person know how his/her behaviour affects you so that they get a chance to change it. If the old behaviour persists, the matter can be escalated to approriate authorities. We have tried this and it works!

An eye for an eye is a futile exercise! Violence creates hatred everywhere.

People have sent vibrations of LOVE even to terrorists and got away scot free… Don’t believe it! Better do now…

By: Mukesh

Mukesh — Sun, 19 Jul 2009 18:58:09 +0000

but really how does one teach one’s child to cope with bullies, esp if he wants to do it on his own, but cant

By: Gopinath Mavinkurve

Gopinath Mavinkurve — Sun, 19 Jul 2009 08:20:37 +0000

Fitting expansion for FEAR, Anitha. Thanks!

Dr. Mohd Tariq Salman, thanks for sharing your thoughts with the readers!

By: Dr Mohd Tariq Salman

Dr Mohd Tariq Salman — Sat, 18 Jul 2009 02:47:00 +0000

Yes, we have to teach our children to be assertive and fearless whenever they are on the right side (ethically and morally). This only can get rid of the scourage of ragging

By: Anitha.S

Anitha.S — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 11:56:15 +0000

FEAR can be an acronym for “Faulty Evaluation of Actual Reality.”